The Dangers of Living Together Before Marriage

I’ve served as a church pastor for over 20 years and in that time I’ve seen the tragic results of people giving into sex/living together before marriage. A committed Christ-follower will not regret choosing purity over unbridled passion – beware that Satan uses lust and desire to trap couples. God created sex and it is awesome when kept within the boundaries God intended.

Six Bible Passages to Consider

Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.” (Hebrews 13:4, NLT)

This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.” (Genesis 2:24–25, NLT)

Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18–20, NLT)

But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:2, NLT)

So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.” (1 Corinthians 7:8–9, NLT)

Since you have been raised to new life with Christ, set your sights on the realities of heaven, where Christ sits in the place of honor at God’s right hand. Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth. For you died to this life, and your real life is hidden with Christ in God. And when Christ, who is your life, is revealed to the whole world, you will share in all his glory. So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Don’t be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world. Because of these sins, the anger of God is coming. You used to do these things when your life was still part of this world.” (Colossians 3:1–7, NLT)

Some Video Resources

Honor God and choose to Save Sex for Marriage:

Why We Waited to Have Sex | Sean and Catherine Lowe, The Bachelor

“God, Please don’t let me die a Virgin” see I am Second article at

Dave Ramsey says Living Together Before Marriage is bad investment

The Problem with Slick Shacking and sex outside of marriage

What Does the Bible Really Say about Sex Before Marriage?

“While practicality does not determine right from wrong, if the Bible’s message on sex before marriage were obeyed, there would be far fewer sexually transmitted diseases, far fewer abortions, far fewer unwed mothers and unwanted pregnancies, and far fewer children growing up without both parents in their lives. Abstinence is God’s only policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and, most importantly, honors God.” Follow this link to read the rest of this article (that goes with this video)